You’ve been holding your breath for years. This is when you remember how to let it go. Where breath becomes more than survival it becomes return. Power. Presence. A pulse of truth running through your body, reminding you: you’re still here.

You’ve been holding your breath for years. This is when you remember how to let it go. Where breath becomes more than survival it becomes return. Power. Presence. A pulse of truth running through your body, reminding you: you’re still here.
Imagine the ocean had forgotten how to make waves.
Shallow, still, without pull.
No depth. No rise or fall.
No life sensed beneath the surface.
Just a tense stillness that signals something coming.
Storm or standstill.
Animals sense these shifts.
They live in the moment, tuned to instinct.
When the sea goes quiet, they know: something’s wrong.
You scroll.
In bed.
On the toilet.
While waiting.
While walking.
Always elsewhere.
In thought. In tomorrow. In yesterday.
You’ve become a stranger to yourself.
A shell in motion.
Constant flight mode.
Autopilot.
No presence. No arrival. No now.
And this is what we call living.
Mouths that speak.
Bodies that react.
But nothing seems inhabited.
Most of us don’t breathe.
Not fully.
Not deep.
We hover in the chest.
Ribs locked.
Diaphragm frozen in defense.
Our breath never reaches the belly.
Never reaches the bones.
Never reaches us.
Oxygen barely travels.
To the gut. The brain. The skin.
And we wonder why we feel numb.
We don’t live.
We regulate.
With shallow breath
through the control zones of everyday life.
Sex.
Tears.
Intimacy.
Stress.
Lies.
We breathe without noticing.
Even though it’s the center of our being,
we treat it like background noise.
Breath connects body, mind, and emotion.
It reacts before you do.
It gasps when you flee.
It holds space when intimacy overwhelms.
Sometimes it gets so loud,
you want to shut it off.
Breath influences your heartbeat,
your nervous system,
your hormones.
It’s a direct line to your internal chemistry.
And to what you experience as consciousness.
The breath is power.
Your body knows when you talk to it.
Nothing hits like breath.
Not coffee.
Not alcohol.
Not pills.
Athletes know it.
Singers know it.
You don’t need motion to strengthen the body.
You need commitment.
You need the breath.
That’s why anxiety loses its grip
when you breathe slower than your thoughts.
That’s why grief rises to the surface, then softens,
when you dare to stay.
You don’t move, but you strengthen.
You don’t fight, but you recover.
In labor, women are taught to breathe.
Not to erase the pain,
but to meet it.
Breath doesn’t numb.
It softens resistance.
Breath trains the body without motion.
It prepares you.
For intimacy.
For stillness.
For stress.
At climax, breath disappears.
Like the body isn’t sure if it’s allowed to feel that much.
Some breathe too fast.
Some not at all.
The nervous system can’t tell:
Is it lust?
Trauma?
Or fear?
To breathe during sex is to risk feeling everything.
When you breathe consciously, the feeling deepens.
Touch becomes connection.
Presence becomes exposure.
Sometimes, breath brings flashbacks.
Sometimes, it brings tears.
You can overwrite your system.
Slow your heart.
Soften your nerves.
Control your immune response.
Tell your body: you’re safe.
The vagus nerve listens.
The breath shifts you from fight to flow.
From Sympathetic to Parasympathetic.
Back to baseline.
Focus sharpens.
Reactivity fades.
Breath teaches you how not to flinch.
It lets you feel.
Lets you stay.
In eye contact.
In emotion.
In presence.
Breathwork was once devotion.
In many cultures.
In many hands.
We owe them our reverence.
It was sacred long before it became trendy.
And it still is.
It’s been branded.
But it doesn’t belong to anyone.
There are breathing techniques
that do more than calm.
They don’t relax.
They dissolve.
You go under.
Into visions.
Into dizziness.
Into heat, trembling, crying, nothingness.
Breath can mimic a dream.
Or a drug.
Breath can take you back,
to the memory you buried.
To what you’re not ready to feel.
It breaks the barrier between now and before.
With each breath you move closer
to what you avoid.
I know breath changes me.
But I don’t know when I’ll be ready to meet
what still waits.
Some doors require more than courage.
Maybe they require dissolution.
I know I’d be able to breathe if I were ready to die.
No one teaches you to inhale when you arrive.
No one teaches you to exhale when you leave.
But the body knows.
And science does too.
For those curious to go deeper, here are a few studies and sources that explore the physiological, psychological, and neurological dimensions of breath work:
Podcasts
Dr. Rangan Chatterjee with James Nestor
Feel Better, Live More – Episode #197: How To Transform Your Health Through Your Breath with James Nestor
Books
Nestor, J. (2020). Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art. Riverhead Books.
Videos
Andrew Huberman (Stanford University)
How to Breathe Correctly for Optimal Health, Mood, Learning & Performance | Huberman Lab Podcast
Dr. Jack Feldman (UCLA)
Breathing for Mental & Physical Health & Performance | Dr. Jack Feldman
Ruben Meerman – TEDxBundaberg
How breathing and metabolism are interconnected | Ruben Meerman | TEDxBundaberg
Scientific Literature
Campanelli, S., Tort, A. B. L., & Lobão-Soares, B. (2020). Pranayamas and Their Neurophysiological Effects. International Journal of Yoga, 13(3), 183–192.
Zaccaro, A., Piarulli, A., Laurino, M., et al. (2018). How Breath-Control Can Change Your Life: A Systematic Review on Psycho-Physiological Correlates of Slow Breathing. Frontiers in Human Neuroscience, 12, Article 353.
Fincham, G. W., Strauss, C., Montero-Marin, J., & Cavanagh, K. (2023). Effect of breathwork on stress and mental health: A meta-analysis of randomised-controlled trials. Scientific Reports, 13, Article 432. (Vol. 13, Article 432)
Bayley, P. J., Schulz-Heik, R. J., Tang, J. S., et al. (2022). Randomised clinical non-inferiority trial of breathing-based meditation and cognitive processing therapy for symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder in military veterans. BMJ Open, 12(10).
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Words: Charlotte Heins / @artbyschrotti
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