Considering the trust involved, can you discuss the vulnerability required during your rope session?
When you get tied, you are obviously incapacitated, so for that reason alone it can make you feel vulnerable. But I think the vulnerability actually runs deeper than that- the head space it puts you into and your physiological response is so personal and private, it takes a level of trust to share that with someone. I see being tied as an energy exchange and you both have to lean into that to get the most out of it. There’s something quite liberating to give over control to someone else and to feel safe in their hands.
In your opinion, in what ways does rope bondage enhance the dynamic of domination and submission?
Rope can be practised in so many different ways, for so many different reasons, whether they be sexual, meditative, artistic or as a power exchange. The physicality of being restricted by someone else inherently leans the power into one person favour, and creates a beautiful vulnerability. The artist isn’t the only ‘giver’ in this instance- the person being tied also has to give over their body to you. It’s that exchange of power that I think is so important.
Moving on to your daily work, what does a typical day or session look like for you?
I wouldn’t say there was ever a typical day! I think that’s what I love about my line of work, every day is different and everyone’s sexuality and the experience they’ve had that led them to it are different. There are always certain aspects of my day that remain the same- there is a lot of prep and admin time involved as well as sessions themselves! A large amount of my life is spent at my laptop, or cleaning! My sessions will always begin with a conversation. It’s so important to check people’s limits, any health concerns, what sort of emotional state they’re in that day, etc, so I always begin with that before moving on to the ‘fun stuff’.